There's not much I can do for you with this dress from here. This is the type of dress I need to "play" with. I try different things until I come up with a look that the bride likes. I have not meet a dress that could not be bustled in some way that looked nice. I have had ladies like the wrist loop thing, but it does get heavy on your arm after awhile of it hanging there. It is also a really neat look for your first dance.
If you don't have a dress form, find a friend who is about your size and height. Put the dress on the form or your friend and try pining up the train in different ways. You can try to do some of the ways I have pictured on my site. My Bustle DVD may give you some ideas too. You just have to be creative and experiment until you come up with something you like.
~Lea